MIRROR MIRROR
I always talk about this concept. Life is just a mirror. Everything that you experience in the "real world" is just a reflection of your inner world. Some quantum physicists can actually explain how the physical world isn't really "real" at all but rather just a physical manifestation of our "real energetic selves". I can't prove this but I believe it at a very intuitive level. If your outer world is, in fact, a reflection of your inner world then it is totally futile to try to change anything on the outside if you are looking for a better (bigger, happier, more fulfilling) outer picture. You must change the inside.

Think about it in a different context. One morning you get up and look in the mirror. Lo and behold your hair is a complete mess. It is totally wild and completely out of place. You don't like this reflection. You want to see a different image in the mirror. It seems silly to suggest that you scream at the mirror, expecting it to change your hair. It seems silly to suggest that you reach over to the mirror and try to move your hair in the picture. It seems silly to take the hairbrush and brush the picture of the hair on the mirror. Doesn't it?

You must actually fix the hair, not the reflection of the hair. Its the same with your life. You must fix your inner world and then your outer reflection will change. It's the only way. Anything else would be silly.